Things can change for better or worse. When people say "you've changed" they usually mean it in a bad way. When we say "I've changed" we mean it in a positive way. Laws change, leaders change, neighbors change, and seasons change.
Our relationships change when we say "I love you " for the first time. They also change when we say "I want to talk to you about incorporating spanking and domestic discipline into our relationship".
I am relatively new to blogging and what amazed me and also what drew me here was the love and compassion so ubiquitous amongst this community of bloggers. While the love and compassion remains in full bloom as evidenced by all the prayers for the families of Emily, Bas, and others, the totally open and unabridged exchange of thoughts and feelings that flowed like a great river, seemed for a while to become more akin to a creek during the dry season.
What caused the transformation? The misinformation from the articles in the news media was one thing. Blogger sending out their "adult content" policy message was another. Although I have no personal knowledge, I know there are individuals who just seem to enjoy causing trouble.
I can understand stupid, thoughtless, or mistaken, because I am guilty of each of those transgressions. However, any action whose sole purpose and intent is designed primarily to cause trouble for another is just mean spirited. Like the bully in school or at work (yes, kids who were bullies just grow up and become adults that are bullies). So I say shame on anyone for being a bully!
We all need to belong, and this community is important, because for many, it is sometimes the only place we can get the answers, the emotional support, or sometimes just the "I understand" validation that is so vital to our individual well being.
Change is inevitable. How we deal with change is our choice.
OK, now that I have opined (and feel better), on a lighter note, I received this a while ago and it is all about changes here in the USA that have occurred in just over the last 100 years (except the one about Canada....to my friends north of the 49th, I ask, is that law still in effect)?
Blessings to all,
George
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It was the year 1906 :
The average life expectancy in the U.S. was 47 years.
Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
Only 14 percent of the homes in the U.S. had a bathtub.
A three-minute call from Denver to New York City cost eleven
dollars.
There were only 8,000 cars in the U.S., and only 144 miles
of paved roads.
The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
Alabama, Mississippi, Iowa, and Tennessee were each more
heavily populated than California. With a mere 1.4 million people, California
was only the 21st most populous state in the Union.
The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower!
The average wage in the U.S. was 22 cents per hour.
The average U.S. worker made between $200 and $400 per year
.
A competent accountant could expect to earn $2000 per year,
a dentist $2,500 per year, a veterinarian between $1,500 and $4,000 per year,
and a mechanical engineer about $5,000 per year.
More than 95 percent of all births in the U.S. took place at
HOME. Ninety percent of all U.S. doctors
had NO COLLEGE EDUCATION! Instead, they attended so-called medical schools,
many of which were condemned in the press AND the government as
"substandard."
Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen. Coffee was fifteen cents a
pound.
Most women only washed their hair once a month, and used
borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from entering
into their country for any reason.
Five leading causes of death in the U.S. were:
1. Pneumonia and influenza 2. Tuberculosis
3. Diarrhea
4. Heart disease
5. Stroke
The American flag had 45 stars. Arizona, Oklahoma, New
Mexico, Hawaii, and Alaska hadn't been admitted to the Union yet.
The population of Las Vegas, Nevada, was only 30!!!! Cross word puzzles, canned beer, and ice tea hadn't been invented yet.
There was no Mother's Day or Father's Day.
Two out of every 10 U.S. adults couldn't read or write. Only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school.
Eighteen percent of households in the U.S. had at least one
full-time servant or domestic help.
There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE U.S.A. !
I like what you said about change - and the ways it can be positive or negative, and especially the way dd/ttwd can change a relationship. Now that's definitely a good thing. :)
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree with you about the community here - it's pretty special - how all that "stuff" just brings out the beauty of everyone here. :)
The 1906 facts were interesting - 47 years life expectancy? Yikes! So glad this is now and not then, lol.
Thanks for sharing,
:) Cali
Cali, thanks for the comments. I find change is interesting because it always causes a reaction; sometimes we like it and other times we don't. Such is life, no?
DeleteI think we have a pretty great group in this community! I am also thankful we are not making our way through time in the early 1900's. Talk about a time of no rights for women. If you were bold enough to want to work, the choices usually were a librarian, a nurse, a school teacher, or oh yes, cannot omit the oldest profession!
Blessings,
George
Great post George, I too like what you said about change being either positive or negative. It certainly seems to be the only constant now days, that's for sure!
ReplyDeleteI agree with your words about this community too .. being the one place we can turn to for support, encouragement, advice and understanding. To know we are not alone. Well said!
Thanks for posting the 1906 facts. Enjoyed reading these, fascinating.
Hugs,
Roz
Roz, hi. Thanks for the comments. I kind of like change every now and then. Keeps things interesting! What is ironic is how sometimes I initially object to the change and then later on have a totally different take and am thankful for it. I guess that just proves that sometimes we should embrace lifes happenings for a while and not be too ready to jump to conclusions!
Delete1906 was a really different world in so many ways, and then again, in other ways we have not changed a bit! I am just starting to read a new book about the development of world societies. Looks interesting!
Blessings,
George
George! You have a blog. I just found it. Yay!
ReplyDeleteWhat is the old saying- 'The only thing that is constant is change.' And in this little community that is primarily what is going on with each of us, we are changing; as individuals and in our relationships and we can come here and celebrate the changes and sometimes rant about them, because change is also difficult at times. But all in all, we know that here are other folks, good people who are going through what we are and we feel like we are understood. Outside of here, there isn't as much understanding, as proof of the article.
I'm glad your blogging. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Jacquie, Yea! I am so happy you found me. This is indeed a great community! we can support, nurture and console each other and just share the love. Kind of like the outside world should be....
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George
I love change! Every couple of years I have to reinvent myself because I get bored with me! Poor Dan is so understanding, and although he often thinks some strange woman has replaced his wife, he just lies back and goes with the flow. Only, it is difficult regrowing your hair when you had it cut to about two inches long all over!
ReplyDeleteLove your blog George - always interesting - never boring!
Hugs
Ami
Ami, I will tell you that all husbands share the experience of thinking a strange woman has replaced the one we know and love! LOL Half-inch hair long huh! You should suprise Dan one day and come home with an outrageous wig! Talk about him thinking you were an alien!
DeleteI am right there with you on the liking change. I think I would have been a nomad in the days of old!
Thanks for the compliments. I hope I can keep things that way!
Blessings
George
LOL...some starch Conservatives would say Canada ONLY lets poor people in now!
ReplyDeleteHappy you are blogging my friend. But you already know that!
Love,
willie
Hi Willie, if only poor people are allowed in, sign me up for a spot in the front of the line! lol!
ReplyDeleteLove,
george