I have to admit last Sunday I upset Nina. She and I got into an argument about how I behaved in church. You see there are certain songs that I don’t like and when we sing one of those, I don’t sing. I simply stand there and look around. She said I was being irreverent and I embarrassed her. I responded that she was wrong, it was not irreverent and she was overreacting.
We exchanged words and I admit after the fact that she was 100% right. I don’t know why I was being such a pain, but I was and it made her feel bad. I apologized and she accepted my apology, but I didn’t feel like I deserved to be let off so easily.
I thought a lot about it and decided I should suggest she spank me. As you all know I am the spanko in the family and Nina, while not a spanko, has agreed to spank me. She has gotten good at it but almost all of my spankings are for fun. We do an occasional scene like my pretending to be a naughty school boy and she the principal, but punishment spankings are very rare. I will attest that even though we spank mostly for fun, all of her spankings are real. While I look forward to them with great anticipation, once she gets going, my focus is 100% on my bare bottom and the pain being administered by her paddle.
I really expected Nina would think a spanking was a good idea and with a gleam in her eye off we would go to the bedroom. While she got her paddle I would undress to my underwear. She would sit on the edge of the bed and I would stand in front of her and once again apologize for acting like a jerk and upsetting her. I would tell her I deserved a good hard paddling and asked her to please spank me.
She would pull down my underpants and instruct me to lay across her knees. I wold acquiesce and she would spank my bare bottom hard and fast. Soon I would be hollering and kicking my feet. She would stop for a moment and tell me to be still and take what I had coming. I would say “yes mam” and my paddling resume. With my bottom on fire and really wanting the spanking to stop, I would once again apologize and say how sorry I was for upsetting her. She would say something to the effect that I was not yet sorry enough and keep on spanking. I would hollow and kick and plead but the spanking would not end until Nina was convinced I was sincerely sorry for my transgression and had received the spanking I deserved. Afterwards we would hug, I would thank her for spanking me and life would be good!
Well guess what, that was not at all how my bright idea played out! I apologized like planned and told Nina that I thought a spanking was in order but her reaction was not at all what I expected. I got the look! The look that says “I don’t want to be your mother who has to spank you for being bad”. “I am not really in the mood for this and I wish you had not brought this up”.
After I saw the look I immediately said if she was not in the mood we could just forget about it. But she said no I will spank you and got her paddle. I said what do you want me to do and she said I don’t care, just lay across the bed. Definitely not happening like I imagined!
Well I did and she pulled down my underwear and started spanking me hard and fast on my bare bottom. I am not sure if she was mad at me for asking for a spanking or what but soon I was owing and hollering and she ended up giving me quite a spanking. My bottom was red and sore just like I had wanted, even though the road traveled to get there was not at all like I had pictured in my mind.
The following day she had a change of attitude and apologized to me and said she was sorry and would be happy to spank me anytime I wanted. She said I just caught her in a bad mood. Usually after 38 years I can read her attitudes but boy did I misread her that day!
I wanted to share with everyone this my latest misadventure, because even though I got the spanking I asked for, it was a far cry from how I imagined it would be. I am sure that has never happened to any of y’all!
Hugs and Blessings,George
Yeah George, I can relate. To me it isn't the spanking the majority of the time, it is all that surrounds it. Asking for a punishment does absolutely nothing for my mindset. As far as the guilt thing goes- if he doesn't initiate it, then I am not absolved of my guilt. You and I have talked though about the internal reset that can happen. How it isn't about absolving the guilt always, more getting that last, lingering bit of tension out between the two parties. So for that it is good....even if it doesn't play out the same in our minds.
ReplyDeleteBarney sounds a lot like Nina. He doesn't stay as emotionally upset as I think maybe he 'should'. He lets things go even if it still is lingering in me...until they start wielding that paddle...and then they find their inspiration somewhere - don't they?
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Love willie
Willie you are so right about the internal reset and how a spanking has to be initiated vs having to ask in order to provide the relief we need. And you are so right about how once they start paddling it is like they had an awakening. But then afterwards I really do feel all better. I just wish Nina would do more initiating....
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Love, George
Hi George, I can relate to this too. It doesn't always go to plan. There is so much more to it than the physical spanking itself. Frame of mind plays a big part.
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Roz
Roz, I think frame of mind is probably the biggest part of a successful spanking experience...and also the most difficult part for our non-spanko partners to understand. It is also the hardest part to explain! We humans are definitely complex creatures...but then that is what makes living such a trip!
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George
Hey George...sorry you two had a bit of a misunderstanding...happy it has all been resolved.
ReplyDeleteI do have to say that I don't quite understand how not singing for whatever reason (doesn't know a song, doesn't like a song, doesn't enjoy singing, has a sore throat or...) is being irreverent.
Hugs and Blessings...
Cat
Hi Cat, it wasn't so much the not singing that upset her (although she still thinks I should sing even if I don't like the song and we will continue to disagree on that). It was the fact that during my non singing I was looking all around watching the other people, the lights, stained glass, etc like a tourist at Times Square. I had to concede that she was right about that. I just figured that if everyone else was busy singing, no one would even take notice of me.....but she sure did :-)
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I can't really think of a single time that it happened like I had imagined it would. Sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes not :) Hugs
ReplyDeleteHi Queenie, I suppose variety is good because an exact repeat every time would make getting a spanking lose it's carthartic quality. Hopefully most of the time when we get spanked our imagined scenario is as good or better than we pictured in our mind's eye. But when it is not, we at least can share with each other and recieve the succoring we need.
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George
Hey George,
ReplyDeleteYes, this has happened with my non-spanko hubby and me as well - but I think the longer we go, the more he sees what it does for me, so he's become all the more willing - like your Nina.
What's unique about us though, is that we both have to watch our spouses to gauge their moods when it comes to a spanking - especially when it might be a little different from the norm, and that can be challenging. :)
But yay for you and Nina - you both prevailed and you both learned and I think you both grew from the experience. That's really awesome!
Hugs,
Cali
ps: I'll share a secret with you - my hubby won't sing the worship songs he doesn't care for either, which took me some time to get used to about him. Now I'm going to watch and see if he's perusing the congregation and maybe I will get to have some fun with his backside on a Sunday afternoon! ;)
Hi Cali, Thanks for sharing that your hubby also dosen't sing certain songs. Makes me know I am in good company! Yes you and I do have a lot in common. Sometimes it is easy to read our other half and other times it is a big surprise! Nina was just in a bad mood and I didn't see it that morning. But when she did spank she really did a good job! No warm-up and lots of hard and fast spanks with the paddle. Had me hollering a lot (to no avail). Afterwards I was red and sore for the rest of the day. Like I said it was what I wanted, just got there on a road less traveled. I guess that is the price I had to pay for misreading her mood!
DeleteCan't wait to hear if your hubby also looks around at the congregation and church building while not singing!
Hugs and Blessings,
George