Nina and I and TTWD

I wanted to provide a bit of an introduction an how I came to be writing this today. I was a lurker for while and then thanks to a persuasive member of this community, whom I have come to think of as a new friend, I created an ID and then finally a blog of my own.

I have found a commonality with the spirit of this community and I have learned a lot from reading the amazing blogs. Interesting how we are able to communicate so freely about things that would otherwise be held close to the vest IRL. I hope to be able to add a few ideas occasionally, but I suspect that I will get more than I am able to give.

I know very little about blogging and never anticipated I would be here today. I plan to just speak about things that are on my mind and hopefully on occasion be a bit entertaining. So onward we go!

I am George, 62 years old and a pilot who gets to fly a beautiful jet airplane all across the USA with occasional trips to Canada, Mexico, Bahamas and Central America.

I have been married to Nina, the love of my life for 36 years and we have two beautiful daughters who are both out of college. It has not always been easy but we manage to always work things out and land on our feet. We are strong Christian believers but try not to be too judgmental of others.

We have been incorporating spanking in our marriage for over three decades with some interruptions due to life happenings such kids, tragedies, and aging parents that seem to take precedence.  I am the HoH, however, I am the one who asked to be spanked. It has been a fascination of mine for as long as I can remember. Nina is very vanilla but also understanding and has adapted quite well. I get stress relief from the spankings and also for fun and playtime, but nothing else.

I am not sure how I fit into the whole scheme of things in this community, but then I never have seemed to fit any mold all of my life. I am an incurable romantic and refuse not to enjoy life and all it has to offer.

I chose George for the character in the movie North By Northwest, George Kaplan. He was the fictional character created by the government in the movie and I liked both the movie and Cary Grant who was mistaken to be George.

I wrote the following before I created this blog, so it is not new to some of you, but I thought I should post it on my own blog.  It expresses my thoughts about TTWD.

TTWD

God created man and woman with spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. We are like a jigsaw puzzle with a few pieces missing. We fill our spiritual needs from God, our physical needs by the bread we eat, but the only place our emotional missing piece can be satiated is when we connect with the love of our life.

The number one thing men need from a women is to be needed.  Men are protectors and providers and a woman cannot say thank you for fill in the blank with an action verb, too much.  Men want to be Don Quixote’s and slay dragons for their Dulcinea’s.  I will tell you a secret about men. When you need to ask for something, say “would you” instead of “could you”.  You will find that you get much better results. 

Women on the other hand, need most of all to be cherished. A man cannot tell a woman “I Love You” too many times.  Every women needs to be reminded time and time again that she is special and loved.

What is your favorite fairy tale? I suspect that you will say Snow White, or Cinderella or perhaps Rapunzel. Did you know that there are fairy tales for women and also for men?  Ask your HoH his favorite fairy tale and most will answer Jack and the Beanstalk. So what has all this to do with TTWD? It is all about meeting our emotional needs.

Fairy tales allow us to vicariously express the emotions of the characters in the tale and it makes us feel better. We cannot explain why we feel better, but after the story we just are much more at peace. An emotional need has been met. I think that for those of us who practice TTWD, we have found a way to fill in a large piece of our emotional jigsaw puzzle.

Spanking provides an intimate connection, not unlike making love, which binds HoH and TiH in a special bond. Receiving a spanking can make the TiH feel cherished, loved, and protected.   For the HoH, by spanking he is meeting the needs of his TiH, and knowing that he is the only one from whom she seeks this special attention, makes him feel like the great protector he longs to be.

I read in many blogs where the TiH strives to understand their feelings about spanking in order to communicate with their HoH. However, they find it difficult to express themselves because they really don’t completely understand why it makes them feel the way they do. Communication is a good thing. However, in this case, it is like trying to understand why a fairy tale makes you feel better. Instead of trying to figure it out, it is best to accept and admit that the reason for needing to be spanked is because it makes you feel better, it makes you closer to your HoH, and it keeps you connected in a positive way!

We are all different and what works for one may not be right for another. What is important is that we do what is right for us at the time. What we do today may be exactly what we do for years, or it could be TTWD will evolve into something different and totally unexpected.

Importantly, I want to add that TTWD only works where there is mutual love and respect.  If the HoH does not love and respect his partner, then the TiH will not feel like they are cherished and special, and if the TiH does not love and respect the HoH it can generate anger and ill feelings between them. 

For those of us who incorporate TTWD in our relationship, it can be a fantastic and rewarding method of filling our emotional needs and promote a life filled with love, respect, and joy.

The road will not always be smooth, because trouble seems always to find a way to interject itself, but TTWD can strengthen a relationship creating bonds that trouble cannot sever.  However, it takes a lot of sacrifice, compromise, patience and effort.  The results though are I promise worth it.

Blessings to all,

George