Thursday, May 30, 2013

Something Interesting and Fun

It is a right brain/left brain thing. Doctors have concluded that if you find the man in the coffee beans in 3 seconds, your right half of your brain is better developed than most people. If you find the man between 3 seconds and 1 minute, your right half of the brain is developed normally. If you find the man between 1 minute and 3 minutes, then the right half of your brain is functioning slowly and you need to eat more protein. If you have not found the man after 3 minutes, the advice is to look for more of this type of exercise to make that part of the brain stronger!!! And, yes, the man is really there!!! 

I saw the man in approximately 30 seconds, although my daughter saw it in about half that time...go figure.
Have a blessed day, 

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Things That Matter

Thanks to all for the concerns and prayers for Oklahoma. The tornado was a real monster in every sense of the word. It was classified as an F5 with winds reaching 210 MPH and it devoured everything in its path.
The Moore tornado was surely a tragedy of great significance affecting the lives of more than thirty thousand people. However, after some introspection, I realize personal tragedies happen to good people every day. Although they don’t attract the attention of the national media, that does not make the feelings of loss any less significant for those affected. 
I don’t recall who sent this to me, but it seemed to resonate a good message in the difficult times in our lives when we experience an actual F5 tornado, or if we are facing a personal tragedy more intimate, that just feels like an F5 tornado.  

God’s blessings to all,

The Things That matter

 When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous "yes."
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed.
Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.  The golf balls are the important things -- your family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions-- things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car.
The sand is everything else -- the small stuff." 

If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups.  Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18 holes. There will always be time to clean the house, and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter.  Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked," he said. "It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,  there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend !!!"

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Oklahoma Update

Hello all,

Thank you for the thoughts and prayers, Nina and I are fine. The tornado in Moore, OK missed our neighborhood by about two miles. Our house sustained no damage, but we are as of yet without power. A small problem compared to the tragedy of those who lost children to the storm. I cannot begin to imagine how devastating that must be.

I am not one who believes that God makes bad things like this happen to punish or for whatever reason. I believe that this tragedy and all such tragedies make God just as sad as it does all of us. God created the universe with it's fixed laws of nature, and while we are blessed to live in this universe, it is nonetheless a fallen universe. Until we are called home, we must deal with it.

I know that the Bible says that God can make something good come from all things for those who believe, but I must admit, sometimes I cannot see how. I pray for all those that are suffering and hope they can find peace some day. It would be a long time if it were me.

Blessings to everyone,


P.S. I will get to responding to all the great comments, but it may take me a little longer than usual.  

Friday, May 17, 2013

Nina and I and TTWD

I wanted to provide a bit of an introduction an how I came to be writing this today. I was a lurker for while and then thanks to a persuasive member of this community, whom I have come to think of as a new friend, I created an ID and then finally a blog of my own.

I have found a commonality with the spirit of this community and I have learned a lot from reading the amazing blogs. Interesting how we are able to communicate so freely about things that would otherwise be held close to the vest IRL. I hope to be able to add a few ideas occasionally, but I suspect that I will get more than I am able to give.

I know very little about blogging and never anticipated I would be here today. I plan to just speak about things that are on my mind and hopefully on occasion be a bit entertaining. So onward we go!

I am George, 62 years old and a pilot who gets to fly a beautiful jet airplane all across the USA with occasional trips to Canada, Mexico, Bahamas and Central America.
I have been married to Nina, the love of my life for 36 years and we have two beautiful daughters who are both out of college. It has not always been easy but we manage to always work things out and land on our feet. We are strong Christian believers but try not to be too judgmental of others.

We have been incorporating spanking in our marriage for over three decades with some interruptions due to life happenings such kids, tragedies, and aging parents that seem to take precedence.  I am the HoH, however, I am the one who asked to be spanked. It has been a fascination of mine for as long as I can remember. Nina is very vanilla but also understanding and has adapted quite well. I get stress relief from the spankings and also for fun and playtime, but nothing else.
I am not sure how I fit into the whole scheme of things in this community, but then I never have seemed to fit any mold all of my life. I am an incurable romantic and refuse not to enjoy life and all it has to offer.

I chose George for the character in the movie North By Northwest, George Kaplan. He was the fictional character created by the government in the movie and I liked both the movie and Cary Grant who was mistaken to be George.
I wrote the following before I created this blog, so it is not new to some of you, but I thought I should post it on my own blog.  It expresses my thoughts about TTWD.


God created man and woman with spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. We are like a jigsaw puzzle with a few pieces missing. We fill our spiritual needs from God, our physical needs by the bread we eat, but the only place our emotional missing piece can be satiated is when we connect with the love of our life.
The number one thing men need from a women is to be needed.  Men are protectors and providers and a woman cannot say thank you for fill in the blank with an action verb, too much.  Men want to be Don Quixote’s and slay dragons for their Dulcinea’s.  I will tell you a secret about men. When you need to ask for something, say “would you” instead of “could you”.  You will find that you get much better results. 

Women on the other hand, need most of all to be cherished. A man cannot tell a woman “I Love You” too many times.  Every women needs to be reminded time and time again that she is special and loved.
What is your favorite fairy tale? I suspect that you will say Snow White, or Cinderella or perhaps Rapunzel. Did you know that there are fairy tales for women and also for men?  Ask your HoH his favorite fairy tale and most will answer Jack and the Beanstalk. So what has all this to do with TTWD? It is all about meeting our emotional needs.

Fairy tales allow us to vicariously express the emotions of the characters in the tale and it makes us feel better. We cannot explain why we feel better, but after the story we just are much more at peace. An emotional need has been met. I think that for those of us who practice TTWD, we have found a way to fill in a large piece of our emotional jigsaw puzzle.
Spanking provides an intimate connection, not unlike making love, which binds HoH and TiH in a special bond. Receiving a spanking can make the TiH feel cherished, loved, and protected.   For the HoH, by spanking he is meeting the needs of his TiH, and knowing that he is the only one from whom she seeks this special attention, makes him feel like the great protector he longs to be.

I read in many blogs where the TiH strives to understand their feelings about spanking in order to communicate with their HoH. However, they find it difficult to express themselves because they really don’t completely understand why it makes them feel the way they do. Communication is a good thing. However, in this case, it is like trying to understand why a fairy tale makes you feel better. Instead of trying to figure it out, it is best to accept and admit that the reason for needing to be spanked is because it makes you feel better, it makes you closer to your HoH, and it keeps you connected in a positive way!
We are all different and what works for one may not be right for another. What is important is that we do what is right for us at the time. What we do today may be exactly what we do for years, or it could be TTWD will evolve into something different and totally unexpected.

Importantly, I want to add that TTWD only works where there is mutual love and respect.  If the HoH does not love and respect his partner, then the TiH will not feel like they are cherished and special, and if the TiH does not love and respect the HoH it can generate anger and ill feelings between them. 
For those of us who incorporate TTWD in our relationship, it can be a fantastic and rewarding method of filling our emotional needs and promote a life filled with love, respect, and joy.

The road will not always be smooth, because trouble seems always to find a way to interject itself, but TTWD can strengthen a relationship creating bonds that trouble cannot sever.  However, it takes a lot of sacrifice, compromise, patience and effort.  The results though are I promise worth it.

Blessings to all,


Tuesday, May 14, 2013

The Fairy Tale Connection and That Loving Feeling

I read about TiH’s who after a spanking feel loved and secure and all warm inside with an almost luminescent glow about them. Then later, not understanding why they feel that way, try to figure it out, only to become frustrated in their attempt.
I believe a nexus can be drawn between fairytales and TTWD. One day Nina complained that the mother in fairy tales was always portrayed as the evil step mother and the father was always the good guy. She said "no fair" and asked why that was. I read about it and it seems there is a reason.
Children at a young age do not have the capacity to feel ambivalence. After they are born and for the first few years their mother is this absolutely wonderful being that has no other purpose in life other than to meet their every need. 

Then one day a terrible thing happens....the mom says to the child "no"!

What happened to this wonderful person? Since the child does not have the capacity to handle simultaneous contradictory feelings about the mom, i.e. love and admiration / anger and resentment, they face a psychological dilemma. That is where the fairytale comes to the rescue. 
By definition a fairytale starts out in reality, they all live together and life is good. Then a bad thing happens....the good mother has died and been replaced by an evil step-mother!  The fairytale then moves into the realm of the surreal. They find gingerbread houses in the forest and beanstalks rising into the sky, and there is always an adversary. In the fairytale, the children on their own accord defeat the evil adversary and the fairytale winds up back in reality, returning to a happy home.
Hearing the story allows the child to vent their feelings vicariously and afterwards are once again in a happy state of mind. What is interesting is that not only is it important for them to hear the same story the exact same way (which is why your children will correct you if you try to change something) but it is not necessary for them to understand why they like to hear the fairytale for it to work its magic, and in fact understanding why can destroy the healing power of the fairytale!
Simply put, TTWD and fairy tales each provide an emotional benefit that makes you feel better. So, the next time you get “that loving feeling”, enjoy it, embrace it, caress it, and never ever feel angst or trepidation about why!  

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Taming the Tiger

Hello all,  first off thank you for such a fantastic welcome!  I really appreciate all the encouragement and kind words.  I was planning as my first real post to explain more about Nina (my bride of 35 years) and me, but alas, that will have to wait as life events have superceded. However, this time in a good way!  My baby girl is graduating from college and we are expecting a lot of company to celebrate. So instead, I am going to post a short article I wrote called "Taming the Tiger".  Hope you like it. Blessings to all!


Taming the Tiger

Ever wondered why as a TiH you still find it necessary to occasionally hiss and scratch?  Ironic behavior from one who wants to be taken in hand and lead, but yet I read numerous blogs where the TiH admits to doing just that from time to time. 
I believe the answer lies in the unique relationship between HoH and TiH. So, what makes a good HoH and what makes a good TiH? 
I have said it before, but it is worth repeating, first and foremost, a good HoH must have the utmost respect for their TiH.  What does that mean? It is not the same as love, because while love plays a gigantic and integral part in any relationship, respect confirms that the TiH is a unique person, an individual who has value and is worthy of the love and care so freely given.
What is it about a TiH that garners this respect that we HoH’s all have for our TiH’s? I think it perhaps can best be explained if we take a mental trip to the circus!  Oh how I love the circus with all the excitement! The clowns and jugglers, the cotton candy and the daring young man on the flying trapeze!  And of course the bravest man of all; the one who goes into the cage with the lions and tigers. We are awed by the way they respond to his direction. Why do the lions and tigers choose to follow this leader? They know he will protect them and watch over them, yet occasionally they growl and claw at the man, to test that he is still strong and will not back down if challenged.
When they do the man isn’t afraid, in fact he relishes the challenge, and without an occasional rawr, would think something wrong. He has a great respect for the lions and tigers because they are strong and courageous creatures, but yet they choose to yield to his authority. 
So why do TiH’s hiss and scratch? Same reason as the lions and tigers! It is in their nature, and that very nature is what is so appealing to the HoH.
So all you tigers, keep on hissing and scratching, because we love you, and we relish the opportunity to show you that we are still the bravest man in the entire circus!

Saturday, May 4, 2013


Ok, I finally created a blog of my own. I am unsure how all this works, but I guess I will learn as I go along. I am not certain that I have that much interesting to share, but I do have ideas and thoughts so I guess that is a place to start.