Friday, August 23, 2013

Love and Marriage

In the previous few weeks I attended two weddings. Both were beautiful affairs with lots of love all around, each couple vowing to be true to each other “til death due they part”. I will be attending another, more personal wedding this October of my own daughter, so I have been preoccupied with thoughts about love and marriage lately.

We all have said I love you, I love that movie, I love to dance, I love my mother, I love Italian food; one word but vastly different meanings. “Love” is a ubiquitous topic in this community. I observe lots of love shared here, given freely and sincerely. That is one of the reasons why I so enjoy this community. It is comforting to hang out with so many loving individuals who are genuine in their concerns for others.
I search the net and found the Greek language uses four words for love.
Eros is the type of love we are all familiar with. Our English word Erotica is derived from the word Eros. Sadly, some people never get passed this type of love and base their relationships purely on sexual attraction. Erotic love is not a deep meaningful love, but superficial and based on sexual attractiveness only.
Storge is what we find in families between the different members. It is the love of mother, father, brothers and sisters. This is a much stronger type of love and involves commitment. “Blood is thicker than water” and most people will do all they can to stand behind their families.
Philia is pertaining to what we might call a brotherly love. Not brotherly in the sense of family, but in the sense of kinsmenship. This is the type of love that makes us want to watch out for our fellow man.
Agape is the highest form of love there is. This is an unconditional love for others in spite of their character flaws and weaknesses. It is a difficult love to obtain simply because we, as humans, are usually concerned more with ourselves and how the world and people around us affect us.
I asked myself, why do we get married? Divorce rates sadly, are very high. Various studies on the US rate of divorce show the marriage breakup rate in the USA for first marriage is 41% to 50%; the rate after second marriage is 60% to 67% and the rate for 3rd marriages are 73% to 74%!
What kind of love are we “in” when we either ask or agree to be someone’s soul mate? When we are young, I am inclined to think it is primarily Eros. I was talking with a blog friend recently who said her father suggested the man she marry should be her best friend. She said she didn’t understand until years later.
Girls are almost unanimously captivated with weddings. They dream about their wedding day from the time they are little.

I know my own daughter is certainly having a wonderful time planning hers. We (fathers) spend enormous amounts of money on weddings.
Yet, with the odds stacked against us, why do we do it? What makes us believe that we will be the exception to the rule and remain soul mates forever? What makes dad’s like me willing to spend thousands of dollars for a single celebration for their daughters.
Love lifts the human spirit to otherwise unachievable heights. We write songs and poetry about love. Love makes us believe the unbelievable and see goodness in others that no one else can see. When we are in love, we walk with a special swing in our step and a smile on our face because our hearts are overflowing with joy. Armed with the power of love, we boldly go forward regardless of the odds.
The popular 1965 song “What the World Needs Now is Love Sweet Love” is still true today. Yes indeed, love is the answer! (and yes, I did grow up in the sixties!)

Peace and Love,

Friday, August 16, 2013

Life Before The Computer

Hi all,

A good friend sent me this and I thought it was funny...especially for us "old" folks who actually remember life before computers.  I am still working on the post about love and marriage and hope to have it ready soon, so until then....enjoy.


Friday, August 9, 2013

Things to think about

Hello all,
I have been away on vacation for a week. Nina and I had a really great time, but it is always good to be home. I received this from a friend a while ago and thought it was worth sharing. 
Things to Think About!

Can you cry under water?
Why does a round pizza come in a square box?

What disease did cured ham actually have?
Why is it that people say they "slept like a baby" when babies wake up like every two hours?

Why are you IN a movie, but you're ON TV?

Why do people pay to go up tall buildings and then put money in binoculars to look at things on the ground?
Why do doctors leave the room while you change? They're going to see you naked anyway.
Why does Goofy stand erect while Pluto remains on all fours? They're both dogs!
 If electricity comes from electrons, does morality come from morons?

Do the Alphabet song and Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star have the same tune?
Why did you just try singing the two songs above?

And my favorite....Why is "bra" singular and "panties" plural?

Thursday, August 1, 2013

August Photos

Hello all.  I get to travel a lot in my position and every once in a while I take a photo that is not too terrible (all luck of course), so I thought I would try on the first of each month to display a few. I hope you enjoy.


Sunrise in La Junta, Colorado

Marsh Harbour, Bahama's

Iowa  (Madison County)

                                          Hanging Lake, Glenwood Springs, CO

Sunrise over Missouri @ 39,000 feet

                                                   Cozumel, Mexico Sunset

                                          Spring Flowers in Aspen, Colorado