Saturday, July 27, 2013

My Fascination with Spanking

I am not sure how to start. My last post was light and simple, but today I want to share more personal details about my fascination with spanking.  

I am clueless as to how I became so drawn to spanking. I was spanked as a child, but I do not approve of spanking children and never spanked my own. Growing up in the fifties, spanking was the normal consequence for a plethora of deeds. However, spanking never corrected my errant behavior; it just made me more careful when I chose to disregard the rules!  

It was during my late teens when I discovered spanking stories found them exciting…and still do. I had a girlfriend in college that kept threatening to spank me for this or that, and so one day I ask her if she had a “thing” about spanking. I told her if she did it was ok with me and she could spank me if she wanted. But she quickly denied any desire to spank. Well, she never did spank me and it wasn’t long after that we were no longer a couple.   

After Nina and I were married the desire went away for several years, then it started to return. I hinted around and then finally one night I came right out and asked her to spank me. I admitted to her how I enjoyed being spanked, and talk about scared; I wasn’t sure what to expect. Turns out that although she was not into spanking, she was happy to indulge my fantasies. That first spanking was not much to speak of, but we started playing spanking games and it really added to our “fun times” together. She even ordered a paddle for a present one Christmas. She still applies it on occasion and I tell you, even though it’s small, it makes quite an impression!

Throughout the last 30 or so years off and on we have incorporated spanking play into our relationship. I say off and on. Kids slowed things down and later on caring for aging parents also put things on hold. Life has its priorities and sometimes spanking play has to take a backseat to more pressing matters.  

I do not want to give the impression that our relationship has been all sunshine and flowers because like most all couples, there were times when it was stretched almost to the breaking point. However, we managed to steer the ship through the stormy seas and back into calm waters.  

We still spank for play but also have added spankings for stress relief. As I entered my sixth decade I began to worry way too much, and when I get stressed about things, I get a tiny bit out of sorts (Nina would say it is more like I get real unpleasant to be around, lol!).

I became stressed because you see I have at least 50 more years of plans, but know I will not live to be 110! Bummer!  However, after a great stress relief spanking, the worries disappear and I am once again content and happy. It is not logical and I cannot explain why, but it just works for me.


Good news is that I have made peace with my worries, and instead of fretting about what I may or may not accomplish before I start pushing up daisies, I try instead to focus on making each day as special as possible.  

I am a strong Christian believer and know that after this life I will be in a better place with literally all the time in the world. However, I also have no doubts that until then I will find many more stupid reasons to get stressed.

It is an ongoing effort to keep a positive attitude when life starts to get the better you, but I know I can depend on God and Nina to keep things in perspective. God lights up my spirit and Nina lights up my backside!  How can anyone ask for more than that?

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Little Known Facts

Hello everyone!  I was sent this by a friend and thought it to be interesting.....enjoy!


                                                                  Little Known Facts

 1. The only 15 letter word that can be spelled without repeating a letter is uncopyrightable.

 2. The word 'checkmate' in chess comes from the Persian phrase 'Shah Mat', which means, 'the king is dead'.

 3. All porcupines float in water.

 4. The longest word in the English language, according to the Oxford English Dictionary, is pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis. The only other word with the same amount of letters is pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconioses, its plural.

 5. An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.

 6. No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver, and purple.

 7. A snail can sleep for 3 years.

 8. 40% of all people who come to a party in your home snoop in your medicine cabinet.

 9. The combination 'ough' can be pronounced in nine different ways. The following sentence contains them all: A rough-coated, dough-faced,  thoughtful ploughman strode through the streets of Scarborough; after falling into a slough, he coughed and hiccoughed.


Tuesday, July 16, 2013

I Now Pronounce You Husband and Woman

Hello everybody!

We all have heard of 20 year marriages that are divorcing and ask what the heck happened? I know I did. We wonder, why after being together for so long are they calling it quits?  I did some research and read a book called "Open Marriage" published in 1972 by Nena O'Neill and George O'Neill. I found it to be very interesting and I do recommend it.

Women in the USA of pre World War II times had very restricted life choices. It has been sarcastically stated that we all live by the golden rule; "those that possess the gold make all the rules"! For ages, men certainly made all the rules and girls were expected to grow up to become wives and mothers. Then as men were conscripted into the war, jobs that were previously for men only, became by necessity available to women.

After the war the men returned home and the women were expected to return to their place as the homemaker. During the 1950's women found themselves with a husband, a home, children; essentially everything that their mothers told them they could ever want, but yet something was missing.


This lead to the sixties and a revolution that challenged the establishment.

The women's movement gained momentum and slowly daughters now had an opportunity to choose professions other than an nurse, secretary, teacher, librarian, or any other traditional role for women.

So what happened? We are attracted to other individuals. We see someone who possesses qualities that intrigue us. They make us laugh, have similar ideals and beliefs, and slowly we find that this other individual is someone we want to be with 24/7. So we decide to get married and start our lives as a couple.

In any Hollywood movie of the times, a marriage ceremony was concluded with the words "I now pronounce you man and wife". Everyone has heard it and it sounds very natural to our ears. But what if instead of Man and Wife we substitute "I now pronounce you HUSBAND AND WOMAN". Weird sounding, no?

What was happening after the marriage vows, was the women was expected to play a new role called "wife". Which meant she was to take care of the household duties and then hopefully 9 or 10 months later start taking care of the children. So the happy couple evolves to a life with the wife taking care of all the home duties and the man providing for the family. Then 20 or so years later, the kids moved out and the man and woman find they have little in common. They are simply two individuals sharing a house together. A recent movie "Hope Springs" with Merryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones exemplifies this situation ( BTW, I am a huge Merryl Streep fan).

The essence of "Open Marriage" is that we fall in love with an individual and we must remain individuals with our own likes and dislikes, and continue to grow as individuals if we want to have a long lasting relationship. We must each contribute to the relationship or we face the possibility of falling out of love. It is not only OK to be our individual selves, but it is essential!

How does TTWD fit into the scheme of things, or does it at all? At first glance, isn't being submissive not just another "role"?

First and foremost the women who are being submissive do so by choice! They are strong willed, opinionated ladies with minds of their own who can take care of not only themselves, but all the multiple scenarios that life can throw at them. However, I read time and again after committing to a submissive relationship, how it opens up freedoms for them to be who they are, like they have never experienced before. Communication is enhanced and a bond is created with each person committed to the betterment of the other. The two really do become one! 

HoH's and TiH's share a love and respect for each other because of who they are, not what they are, and that is the key for any successful relationship. The individual person they fell in love with has only become more interesting and more fun to be with today and tomorrow and the future holds positive and exciting dreams.

The mass of the population will never understand the irony of how TTWD can be liberating. They will not understand the excitement and adventure we share. That's OK, for everyone must find their own destiny. The important thing is always be true to yourself, continue to grow as a person and share the essence of who you are with a kindred spirit.

Blessings to all,


Monday, July 8, 2013


Someone said one of life's great ironies is that change is the only thing in life that remains constant.

Things can change for better or worse. When people say "you've changed" they usually mean it in a bad way. When we say "I've changed" we mean it in a positive way.  Laws change, leaders change, neighbors change, and seasons change.

Our relationships change when we say "I love you " for the first time. They also change when we say "I want to talk to you about incorporating spanking and domestic discipline into our relationship".

I am relatively new to blogging and what amazed me and also what drew me here was the love and compassion so ubiquitous amongst this community of bloggers.  While the love and compassion remains in full bloom as evidenced by all the prayers for the families of Emily, Bas, and others, the totally open and unabridged exchange of thoughts and feelings that flowed like a great river, seemed for a while to become more akin to a creek during the dry season.

What caused the transformation?  The misinformation from the articles in the news media was one thing. Blogger sending out their "adult content" policy message was another.  Although I have no personal knowledge, I know there are individuals who just seem to enjoy causing trouble.

I can understand stupid, thoughtless, or mistaken, because I am guilty of each of those transgressions. However, any action whose sole purpose and intent is designed primarily to cause trouble for another is just mean spirited. Like the bully in school or at work (yes, kids who were bullies just grow up and become adults that are bullies). So I say shame on anyone for being a bully!

We all need to belong, and this community is important, because for many, it is sometimes the only place we can get the answers, the emotional support, or sometimes just the "I understand" validation that is so vital to our individual well being.

Change is inevitable. How we deal with change is our choice.

OK, now that I have opined (and feel better), on a lighter note, I received this a while ago and it is all about changes here in the USA that have occurred in just over the last 100 years  (except the one about my friends north of the 49th, I ask, is that law still in effect)?

Blessings to all,


It was the year 1906 :
The average life expectancy in the U.S. was 47 years.

Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
Only 14 percent of the homes in the U.S. had a bathtub.

A three-minute call from Denver to New York City cost eleven dollars.
There were only 8,000 cars in the U.S., and only 144 miles of paved roads.

The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
Alabama, Mississippi, Iowa, and Tennessee were each more heavily populated than California. With a mere 1.4 million people, California was only the 21st most populous state in the Union.

The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower!
The average wage in the U.S. was 22 cents per hour.

The average U.S. worker made between $200 and $400 per year .
A competent accountant could expect to earn $2000 per year, a dentist $2,500 per year, a veterinarian between $1,500 and $4,000 per year, and a mechanical engineer about $5,000 per year.

More than 95 percent of all births in the U.S. took place at HOME. Ninety  percent of all U.S. doctors had NO COLLEGE EDUCATION! Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which were condemned in the press AND the government as "substandard."
Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen. Coffee was fifteen cents a pound.

Most women only washed their hair once a month, and used borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from entering into their country for any reason.

Five leading causes of death in the U.S. were: 
1. Pneumonia and influenza
2. Tuberculosis
3. Diarrhea
4. Heart disease
5. Stroke

The American flag had 45 stars. Arizona, Oklahoma, New Mexico, Hawaii, and Alaska hadn't been admitted to the Union yet.
The population of Las Vegas, Nevada, was only 30!!!!

Cross word puzzles, canned beer, and ice tea hadn't been invented yet.

There was no Mother's Day or Father's Day.
Two out of every 10 U.S. adults couldn't read or write.

Only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school.

Eighteen percent of households in the U.S. had at least one full-time servant or domestic help.
There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE U.S.A. !


Monday, July 1, 2013

Stress Relief Spanking

It was a dark and stormy night....well not really, but I always liked the way Snoopy started out his stories!  What it was, was a culmination of a week of too many individual things annoying me. None of them were of any significance alone, but collectively, I was getting stressed.

Nina and I were out and about doing stuff and I got terse...ok I got upset and kind of shut down. I know none of you have ever been guilty of that kind of thing! We ended the afternoon with a workout at the local Y and came home. I finished a shower and thought about how I was feeling and said to Nina, "I think I behaved poorly today and I think a spanking would help me feel better" to which she with little hesitancy replied, "I agree".

I got a paddle that I had made from a long while ago and gave it to her as she sat on the bed. Since I had just come from the shower and was naked there was no discussion of removing any articles of clothing. I went across her lap with my upper body resting on the bed and she went to work.

Nina is a vanilla girl, but has adapted quite well! The spanking started without much warm-up and quite soon I began to have doubts that this was such a good idea after all!  After about fifty she stopped, but to my chagrin only to change paddles! (See I told you she has adapted)

I kind of lost count on the second go around, but I am sure there were at least 30-40 more. Afterwards, I had a very red and sore bottom, but I thanked her and told her that I really did feel better.  My stress had disappeared and I was in a fantastic mood!  It was a very good stress relief spanking and we had a fine time the remainder of the evening :-)!